So...what you're saying is, "Not at this time? Like, maybe sometime in the near future? Like....tomorrow? Next week? In a month? Not 'no' indefinitely, right?"
NO means NO....NO NO NO NO NO!!!! How many more times would you like me to repeat it before it sinks in??!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!
Okay, so I haven't really had a conversation such as this, but I have certainly heard "no" enough times in my lifetime that sometimes I feel as if this dialogue has crossed my path. I find it kind of ironic that "no" is "no" in almost every language, a universal negative if you will. Agreed, there are occasions where "no" actually holds some validity. Should I touch the burning red hot stove? No. If all my friends are jumping off a cliff to their death, should I follow. No? If I'm able to choose Batman over Wonder Woman, should I do it? Heck NO!
So with that last one, I kid, but differentiating between when "no" has validity and when it's just an obstacle is sometimes difficult to do. When people tell you "no", it can often times come from a place of insecurity, jealousy, fear, or downright pure meanness. Even so, when they say that one little word, we often times take all the responsibility and don't even see that it's coming from an issue that isn't even ours to claim.
When is "no" really "no"?? I honestly don't think that there is a universal answer to that, I think it can only be answered by the individual and what his/her gut instinct is saying. All I know is that I wouldn't be where I am today if I hadn't made some very crucial "no"s into Yeses.
Case in point....I was told that I wasn't naturally athletic (and this came at a time when I had just been cured of an eating disorder and was trying to rebuild myself - RUDE!). People were surprised that I wanted to join the basketball team because I wasn't naturally gifted. No, Kelly, you shouldn't pursue it. What did I do instead? I practiced my game every waking hour that I could, even during Michigan winters when I had to pack down the snow in order to dribble. Every year I was voted "Most Improved" and even led my basketball team to a District Championship my senior year. Now, athleticism is engrained in everything I do, and is something I dearly cherish. Think about it...where would I be if I listened to that person's "no"? It makes me shudder.
There are fine lines everywhere: between cocky and confident, yes and no, good and bad, naivety and innocence. My best words of encouragement are to go with your gut feeling, that instinct within you that somehow got suppressed and is just dying to guide you in the direction you're meant to go. When it comes to your dreams, never let those "no"s stop you. And don't you dare tell me no to that!!!